2023 Goals Check-in #10

I’ll be posting monthly check-ins on my 2023 Goals. This is check-in #10!

Take care of my health

Gosh, this month was wild. I got on vacation mode with my eating on October 1st and never really got back on track (and unfortunately, had some binging). I was just hoping not to gain too much – 3.3% gain (20.4% loss for the year).

There will be months* like that. Onward!

I ran, walked, biked, and took strength classes at WWM this month. I’m proud of myself for biking in the colder temps. I did one race – the Shorewood Hot Cider Hustle Half Marathon – and had a great time.

I had two therapy sessions, two massages, and two (good!) INR check-ins. I journaled. I tried meditation. I saw lots of loved ones. I only painted once. I just want to numb out at night – getting all my supplies out and using my brain feels like too much.

*Well, actually, I hope there are not entire months like this again, but there will be celebrations, vacations, overeating, and the off days that follow them

Spend less
(mostly tracking my two vices – sending packages and getting Starbucks)

January: $248.76
February: $81
March: $72.54
April: $44.40
May: $37.37
June: $99.47
July: $15.09
August: $48.86
September: $32.35
October: $0
Total: $679.84

I didn’t spend any money on shipping this month, which is great, but this was actually a hella expensive month. I spent money on/at:

  • Kohl – clothes for Steven, holiday gifts, new luggage, sheets
  • WWM – two new tops and a hoodie
  • Goodrs – two pairs
  • Half Marathon
  • Shitterfly magnets
  • Holiday and birthday gifts
  • Haircut and balayage
  • Shitterfly holiday cards
  • Europe flight tickets & hotels

This month was YIKES level expensive. November will be better, even though I’ll be buying holiday gifts, because there is no way I will spend as much as I did on the Europe trip.

I got Starbucks 4x, eek (all still on gift cards/free, but that’s a lot!) – 10/4 at office, 10/8 at the airport, 10/18 at the office (free one!), and 10/25 at the office AGAIN. I am going to break that office habit in November.

Continue to purge things I don’t use from the house

I have two bags to take to Goodwill in my car!

Visit a new state with Steven

We visited two new states – Maine and New Hampshire!

Maine Day 1
Maine Day 2
Maine Day 3
Maine/New Hampshire Day 4
Maine Day 5

Hide a rock a day for the year

Still doing this and so so ready to be done!

Things I’m excited about in November

Let’s bring this series back! And let’s see if I can remember to do it on a month-by-month basis.

Things I’m excited about in November:

  • Getting back to my usual diet

  • A (so far) less busy month than October
  • Starting to listen to holiday music
  • Extra days off work (Veterans Day, Thanksgiving)
  • A trip to LA to see Tiff and Val
  • Teaching a rock painting class at WWM (where I work out)
  • Mailing our holiday cards (I’ll send the Australian ones tomorrow!)
  • Mom & Dad visiting
  • Getting our holiday tree
  • Steven’s first solo flight?

What are you excited about in November?

When you don’t want your guests to leave

Our month began and closed with seeing Courtney* and David, yay!

At the beginning of the month we flew down to Eureka Springs and saw them, and this Friday they flew out to Chicago and spent the weekend with us. We’d been talking about them visiting in the fall, and I’m so glad it worked out for them to come this weekend – how lucky we got to see them twice this year and so close together! Now we need to plan our next visit!

We did the usual “Visiting Kim & Steven” activities:

  • El Famous
  • Warehouse Tour
  • House & Dragonstone Tour (it was their first time at our house)
  • Meeting and giving all the cats lots of treats and pets

  • Staying up late talking & playing games
  • Eating too much food

  • Going to Wisconsin (they really liked Milwaukee!):
    • The Vanguard
    • Sip & Purr
    • The Milwaukee Art Museum

    • Experiencing Woodman’s
  • Wildberry Cafe
  • Seeing some of the local forest preserves

We had a wonderful time taking them to our favorite restaurants, showing them around, introducing them to the cats, and just sitting and chatting. We can sit and chat with Courtney and David for hours and we do, and we often loose track of time and stay up very late. I’m proud that we all called it a night by midnight each night. Good work, team!

Courtney and David were so excited to meet our cats and right when we arrived home Tywin came running to greet them. Aww. Apollo and Starbuck were social-ish from the start, and Khali and Ned warmed up to them and were hanging out by the end of the trip. I love when people are so excited to meet our crew. And when our crew cooperates.

When we went to Sip & Purr on Saturday I dropped of 31 rocks for them to sell – 11 of my own and 20 that others had sent me. Before I even put prices on them, I had sold one. Woo hoo!

Me and Katy, the Sip & Purr owner

Our wonderful weekend left me with a full heart. I can’t wait to see them again!

*Courtney is a blogging friend I made back in 2005

Booked!

This month has been such a whirlwind. In ways it feels as busy as my July did with those three trips to Iowa – this month had two out of state trips, two sets of visitors, and a race (and I feel like I’m forgetting something?).

I’ve been on autopilot. I’ve been getting my work done (for both jobs). I’ve been working out and enjoying it. I’ve been making and going to self-care appointments (massage, therapy, INR). I’ve been taking care of the cats and house. I’ve been journaling. I’ve been checking things off my to do list.

What haven’t I been doing? Painting. Eating well (more on that in my check in next week). Keeping as in touch with people as I’d like. Planning ahead for the holidays.

I’ve really been living day by day. I plan future things and book them, then kind of forget about them. Like… this LA trip next month. How is it less than 2 weeks away? Whoa that got here fast.

And… drumroll… I booked our Europe trip last week! I haven’t even taken time to process that I did! I booked the flights and hotels and one of the activities. It was a to do thing on a busy day last week and I booked it all then went on with my day.

So I am really coming here to say, yay! That is all booked! And I will take time to process it and get really excited this week. We’re going to Amsterdam, Dresden, and Brussels in spring 2024 for an early 40th birthday celebration for me (don’t worry, I still want to go all out for my actual 40th in July – parties, more trips, etc.).

It was my first time working with a travel agent, Stephany‘s friend Amber from Booked Travel Planners and I had/am having the best experience with her and am so happy I went the travel agent route! I 100% recommend her!

But, again, I will get excited about that next week. For now I have to get back to our guests – Courtney and David are visiting this weekend from Arkansas and we’re having a great time! I’m sad they leave tonight!

Random Thoughts Thursday 427

  • Last week I armed myself with Churus in an attempt to get a photo of all four cats together for our holiday card. There were a lot of bloopers, but with the help of Photoshop and AI, I had success!

  • I ordered our holiday cards Saturday night. It feels good to have that done. I’m super impressed with myself for even thinking about doing it, because I have NO concept of time lately. I know where I’m supposed to be each day, but not the date, or what month it is.
  • All that being said, I have ordered some holiday gifts already – because my snis asked me if I wanted first dibs on her kids’ wishlists. Yes please! Thanks, snis!
  • I’ve been thinking about bringing back my “things I’m excited about this month” series that I used to post at the beginning of each month. It was a fun exercise that got me excited for each month. I probably stopped it because I had nothing going on? No idea.
  • Today is Ned’s Gotcha Day! He’s lived with us (inside) for two years! We love our little bear cat.


  • Speaking of outdoor black cats, Snow Jr is becoming much more comfortable with me and even sniffed my hand last week! He and Tywin are both on the (the backside of) holiday card. And no, I do not want them inside, although I do think I should get Tywin fixed.

Link to Random Thoughts Thursday 426

A regret

I really wish I would have taken measurements (hip, waist, chest, etc.) on January 1st.

Or at least when I started strength training again on August 14th.

My body has had a lot of physical changes and it would be nice to have a measurement beyond weight and “this fits now” or “this is getting looser” or “I can see definition in my shoulders.”

Oops.

I could always start now!

Reading Update (2023 #56-58)

During this time I also got more than 50% through The Candy House by Jennifer Egan and couldn’t keep going. Each chapter was in a different style about a different character in the story and they were getting too outlandish in style. 

[56] The Summer of Broken Rules by K.L. Walther
Young Adult Fiction / Social Themes / Dating & Sex, saw on Available Now on Libby, audiobook

Synopsis: It’s the summer between senior year of high school and college, and Meredith is headed to Martha’s Vineyard with her family for their annual summer vacation, which will end with a family wedding. Meredith is uneasy though – it’s been eighteen months since her older sister Claire unexpectedly passed away and Meredith isn’t sure she can handle being in a place with so many memories of her, especially when the family elects to play Assassin – Claire’s favorite summer family game. Meredith wants to win the game for Claire, but finds herself distracted by a certain groomsmen who agrees to form an Assassin alliance with her.

Review: Ha, I should have read that this was YA before I checked it out. That’s on me. The story was cute, but it was very YA. I finished it because it wasn’t horrible or annoying it was just… very YA.

Recommend? No

[57] A Winter in New York by Josie Silver
Fiction / Romance / Romantic Comedy, saw on @rocknreader’s account, Kindle version

Synopsis: Gosh. This premise is so stupid I’m having a hard time describing it seriously. Iris fled a horrible relationship in London and headed to the city her late mother loved – New York City. She misses her mother terribly, especially the super top secret hush hush gelato recipe her mom would make her. While at a street fair with the one friend she’s made in NYC, Iris sees a gelateria she swears is in a photo of her mother’s. She checks the photo and confirms it, then heads back there the next day to check it out, and meets handsome Gio, who runs the gelateria, but can’t make gelato anymore because the one family member who knew the recipe had a stroke and forgot it. Iris figures out her mother’s recipe is the same as the family recipe (gasp!), and offers to help them figure it out, without giving it away that Gio’s dad gave his mom the recipe. Sorry, that was the best I could do.

Review: Did I mention how dumb this premise is? This entire book is based off of Iris telling lies and knowing she needs to tell Gio the truth but putting it off. I HATE THIS PLOT LINE. HAAAAAAAAAAATE IT. Also, why would they want a random stranger (who, yes, happens to be a chef) to come every day and try to help them crack their family gelato recipe? Gawd, this book was just dumb. Iris is weepy and makes dumb decisions, Gio is underdeveloped, and the loud Italian family is the only sort of saving grace. Also, some things are left unresolved, and the ending is completely silly and unbelievable. Just, no.

Recommend? Um, no

[58] Taste: My Life Through Food by Stanley Tucci
Biography & Autobiography / Culinary, saw in “Available Now” on Libby, audiobook

Synopsis: Stanley Tucci shares snippets of his life through food – his mother’s Italian cooking, dining on the cheap when he was a poor actor, eating on set, trying different restaurants all over the world, cooking at home, and his relationship with food while he was treated for and recovered from oral cancer.

Review: I picked this out because I wanted something to listen to and thought it would be nice to listen to Stanley Tucci. It was. I enjoy his voice, the way he read his book, and his sense of humor. However, it’s, um, mostly about food, and I’m not a foodie, so it was a bit boring (especially listening to the recipes), and there were some descriptions of killing animals that I didn’t enjoy. I did enjoy the little stories from his life and time on sets, but mostly, it was just not for me. I need to stick to non-food based memoirs.

Recommend? If you love food, yes

Shorewood Hot Cider Hustle Half Marathon Race Report

What a day! I’m so glad I signed up for the Shorewood Hot Cider Hustle Half Marathon!

I had an amazing race – I felt great and performed much better than I thought I would, and I made two new friends. Woo hoo!

But let’s start at the beginning. Feel free to skip ahead to the actual run portion.

Pre Race

There were many warnings about getting to the race early and carpooling (oops – not an option for me) because parking would be scarce. You don’t need to tell me twice!

I was also doing race morning packet pickup and they said that was “not recommended” so I wanted to give myself plenty of time for that.

So I got up right before my 5:00 alarm at 4:55, left the house by 6:00 and was parked by 6:45. For an 8:30 race. Ha. (But I am glad I did – that parking lot filled up quick and got chaotic, and it was so nice to have my car nearby and not take the race shuttle in from remote parking.)

I was there before the volunteers were even at packet pickup! I got to listen to the speech where they explained to them what to do.

I got my quarter zip and bib, used the porta potties (with no lines!) then went back to the car and finished the podcast I was listening to, goofed off on Instagram, and got out to use the potty again, hide my rock, and walk around a bit to warm up my legs.


I went back to the car and took off my sweatshirt and got my handheld and went over to line up. I figured I’d line up by the 11:00 pace flag, but the flags only went up to 10:00, so I got behind that.

My goal for the race was to run a comfortable pace, ideally average 11:00 minute miles, which looking up now, would be a 2:24:12 race (my average pace for my long runs all summer was around 12:00/11:30, and has only recently dipped toward 11:00). I planned to track my run with my Garmin, but have time of day on my screen, not my pace. I wanted to run by feel.

While I was waiting, I started talking to the runners on either side of me when they started saying how cold they were (I did not relate, ha). We commented on how we all went there by ourselves (they said that made them feel weird, but I didn’t – I don’t mind being alone at all), and shared our plans. Danielle had run a few halves and really wanted to get under 2:20. She did it in training, but it always eluded her on race day. She was going to start out slow then dial in the pace. It was Kelly’s first half, and she just wanted to finish. She had trained up to about 10.25 in training. I told them I was hoping to average 11:00s but never look at my watch, ha (and they asked me how many halves I’ve done. I guessed about 30 and looked it up when I got home – this was my 34th).

So you can guess what happened. We ran most of the race together!

Race

The 5K and half marathon both started at 8:30. I was a bit worried about congestion, because we were mostly going to be running on the Oak Leaf Trail, but most of the start of the race was on the road, and it wasn’t too bad. I think I only felt like I was going to run into someone a few times.

Me (purple), Danielle (pink), & Kelly (black)

Danielle was paying close attention to pace since she had a pace goal, and called our first mile in around 10:30 and I was like (mentally) “Well, f*ck. I don’t want to positive split the hell of this thing. Should I slow down?” Then I was like “nah! Yolo! F*ck it!” That could have gone really badly, but thankfully, I didn’t.

Just after mile 1 we got onto the path and the 5K folks went one way and we went the other, and it was instantly less congested. Yay. The three of us could run side by side for a lot of the race and not be in anyone’s way.

When we started, it was cloudy, with full coverage, and we got sprinkled on a few times. It felt great. Nearly perfect race weather to start – 47°F and no wind. We clocked off miles 2 and 3 in 10:14 and 10:07, and just kept chatting and getting to know each other (I would look down at my watch when it buzzed my split but other than that it just had the time of day on the screen).

Most of our miles were around 10:00 after that, except one, which you can probably guess why!

We ran pretty far south on the trail near Milwaukee (oh, I should note this race started in Shorewood, a city north of Milwaukee) and did a 180° turn at 4.5 miles. I felt really good, but my stomach was a bit upset. I got my period the day before the race (yay, great timing!) and my stomach always feels a bit off then. I decided to ignore it.

At some point after we turned, the sun came out, and we were all “huh?!”. Ha. The forecast had shown overcast and rain, and we all commented on how we were overdressed. But not too badly.

There was a person in this photo but I removed them, ha

The trail was absolutely beautiful with all the fall colors. And mostly flat, which was a bonus!

Right after we passed mile 8, which was the middle of the second out and back, I saw there were porta potties, and said I was going to stop if it was “green” (unlocked). Kelly said she needed to too and would stop if two were green. Only one was green but we stopped any way (and Danielle went ahead) and I am so glad we did. I knew there would not be any more until the second 180°  turn close to mile 11 and that was too far away to hold it.

We both went to the bathroom and that mile was 11:02 <– the pace I thought I was going to run the whole thing in! Ha!

Kelly and I sped up a bit too much for mile 10 (9:46) then reined it in. I had told Kelly and Danielle early on that I felt like I had a lot of pep and could take off and do a fast finish, and Kelly told me to go a few times, but I was like “nah, I want to cheer you on and be with you for your first half finish!”

So she got cheerleader Kim. And she did so well – we kept a steady pace for those last few miles and finished in 2:14:49, an average 10:17 pace (it was 56°F when we finished). I was ECSTATIC. I could not believe I ran 13.1 and it felt so easy and it was with a minute per mile pace that starts with a 10! Slow long runs really do pay off.

Of course, this made me excited to run another half. I thought I’d be all alone for this one, but I was with people the whole time and it just flew by. And I run faster when I talk, and I talked for most of it, naturally (Kelly said “you’re so easy to talk to!” which made me feel really good).

Oh! And Danielle was at the finish with her family and she ran a 2:11:00! Nine minutes under her goal!!!!

I felt very lucky that I got to be part of Kelly’s first half, and part of Danielle’s sub 2:20 day. I’m so proud of them both!

Post Race

Post race was a bit confusing on where to get our water and medals, but thankfully Danielle had just done it and told us where to go. We picked up our caramel apples, met Danielle’s husband and kids, then parted ways! Of course, we have a group text now so we can cheer each other on and stay in touch.

I went to my car and changed my shirt and got out my protein shake to drink, then went to Blooming Lotus treats, a gluten free & vegan bakery nearby, to get some goodies to try.


Then I drove home! (and made a salad to eat, took a bath, then wrote this, then tried the donuts which tasted more like cake than donuts, but were delicious!)

Swag

You could pick from a long sleeved tee or 3/4 zip. I was originally thinking tee but then thought about how much I used the 3/4 zip I got from another race, so I picked that. Then got this one and realized it’s not tech gear, and has all the sponsors on the back (blah) but I will wear it a bit!

We also got a medal, a mug, and a caramel apple. I was surprised that was the only post race food, but maybe there was something else that I missed! (I completely missed the hot apple cider and forgot about it until I saw a photo of someone holding it in the race photos.)

Random

I wore my headphones the whole time and had music going quietly while we talked. I am still figuring out how to use those headphones and accidentally called the salon when trying to skip a song (there must be some combination of presses that dials the last number you called).

I was stoked there would be free race photos and kept watching for them on the course and they were at mile 12.9 , and at the finish (and apparently the start). Womp womp. I included the start and finish photo in this post. I am hoping the mile 12.9 one comes in nice. I wish they would have been out on the course, but logistics.

I fueled every 30 minutes/3 miles ish, and had half a packet of Fruit Punch Honey Stinger Chews, an orange Gu, the other half of the chews, then one of my coveted Clif Citrus gels that I have been saving for special occasions like this. I took it around mile 11 and it was delicious. Sigh, I wish they hadn’t stopped making those.

I fueled a lot for this race. The day before I had oatmeal for breakfast, a salad with pasta (goulash) for lunch, and pesto pasta, broccoli, and vegan fried fish for dinner. I had a piece of bread with peanut butter and a banana around 5:30 am, then ate a peanut butter sandwich at 8:10, right before the race started (I normally eat then immediately start my run). It felt like a lot of food but I was full of energy the whole time!

Trying Balayage

Yesterday was the first time I’ve ever had my hair professionally colored (I had balayage done). Sure, I effed around (and found out – boy did I find out) in high school, but I hadn’t messed with my hair color since then. I mean, obviously:

I won’t bore you with the process or details, but I will say I had a great experience and love love loved my new stylist*, who worked out a plan with me to grow my hair out.

And I’m really just coming here to say – I left feeling like a million bucks. Like a new version of Kim. And I loved it. I felt so pretty. I… am not someone who feels pretty often. Cute? Sure. Pretty? Nah.

The stylist asked why I decided to have my hair dyed now, after all this time of never trying it, and I told her about all the physical, mental, and emotional changes I’ve made to take better care of myself this year, and that I decided I wanted some of those physical changes to be appearance-based. Basically, I feel really good, and want to look better. Before I just never gave a sh*t.

It feels good. I really, really, really need to learn how to style my hair though. I want to learn French braids, I still need to take Stephany up on her offer to teach me the curling wand, and really… I just need to watch a lot of YouTube. The problem is I hate watching videos. Maybe I can hire someone to come spend a few hours with me and teach me? Hmm.

*My previous stylist quit, and I didn’t follow them

Setting boundaries makes me feel like a jerk

Even though I know it’s good for me and my mental health, setting boundaries makes me feel like such a jerk.

For example, earlier this week I saw that someone I’m not close with on Instagram sent me a minute long voice memo after trying to call me. It’s only a minute, but I barely want to listen to voice memos from my close loved ones, so I didn’t listen to it. (And I definitely don’t want to take random unplanned calls on Instagram.)

The next day, they DM’d me saying they hoped they didn’t offend me (with the content of the memo?). I guess they were wondering why I never responded. I don’t know what they were talking about since I didn’t listen to it, and basically said that -“you didn’t offend me, I didn’t listen to it.” Then I told them I’m limiting my time on social media and I don’t listen to voice memos or watch reels that (rando) people send me (I watch them if they are reels from a close friend or my snis).

And I felt like such a jerk.*

But I also felt relief in putting that out there. That’s the first time I’ve said a boundary out loud. Most of them are just boundaries I’ve created for myself and haven’t told the other party about, for example:

  • keeping certain relationships on a superficial level because the other person doesn’t provide the support/response I need
  • not spending time with toxic people
  • limiting time with draining people
  • not going to an event because someone else thinks I should

I didn’t even realize those were boundaries until I started therapy this year. I was telling my therapist about the first item, and how I feel bad not sharing things with someone because of their toxic positivity and not getting what I need out of sharing them. I felt like a jerk for withholding. And my therapist said “you aren’t a jerk; you’re setting a boundary.”

Hmm. I never thought about it that way! It’s true. I still hate it – I want to be 100% genuinely myself all the time and hate when I can’t be (and that boundary makes me feel that way) – but it’s true.

*And I acknowledge that I was way more available to people (and responsive) in the past than I am now, so that’s confusing for them

Hi! I’m Kim, a 40-something-year-old living in northeastern Illinois with my husband Steven, and our cats, Khaleesi, Apollo, Starbuck, and Eddard aka Ned. My current main hobbies are running, painting rocks, flying, reading, and eating. I follow a vegan lifestyle and work in an account management role. I write about a variety of topics and consider this a “life” blog – a place I can share anything that’s on my mind. Please visit the “About” page to get a better idea of who I am! 🙂

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