- Let’s start with the one positive bullet – I’m done with my self-imposed somewhat isolation after our Iowa trip/parents visiting and met a friend for a walk last night and it was such a pleasure and wonderful way to end a crazy work day. I’ve been craving social interaction this week and find myself talking too long to the barista at Starbucks, and the pharmacist at Target. Oops?
- The bad part about being so open with your goals is sharing when you fail (see: work, ha). It was a bummer to reach out to so many people with “I didn’t advance” news. But it was also a good reminder of all the people I have in my corner, and of what kind of feedback I need when I share news.
- It’s been over a week and I DON’T want to think about it anymore, but it keeps creeping in to my thoughts because, duh, it’s work, and because I don’t have any closure about what I did wrong to get eliminated. I do know more about who advanced and when they will know who gets the position, but that’s not appropriate to talk about here. And I really DON’T want to think or talk about it right now.
- We finished what we could of Billions – the last season stopped at episode 7 (there are usually 12) because COVID-19 interrupted filming. Has that happened to anyone else with any of the shows you watch? Now we’re watching Upload, which is about being uploaded in to a digital afterlife after you die. It sounds dark but it’s actually lighthearted, clever, and funny (so far).
- I miss going to the movies! And having newer movies to watch at home (although Project Power on Netflix was decent). Some theaters are reopening soon, and I have a list of movies I want to see, but I won’t go. Not yet.
- Consumers can buy Impossible Burgers now (they were previously only sold to restaurants) and we have some! I like them, but Khali and I both prefer Beyond Burgers. Sorry, BURGURS.
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Upload is soooo good. Can’t wait for season 2.
Us too! We only have a few episodes left!
Khali!! Her face made me snort with laughter.
I tooootally understand that vulnerable feeling of sharing bummer news when you’re open with your goals. And it’s hard to NOT think about something work-related like this when your whole Monday-Friday life revolves around work! AND… it was such a huge part of your life over the past month-ish as you worked on your application and interview prep. It might take a while for your body and mind to process through it all and fully move on from it. <3
Hee hee 🙂
I think it will take time. Especially when they announce WHO gets it, because then I have to process all that. Funny that I’ve been thinking about how I want this position for years but expect myself to get over it in a week. That makes a whole lot of sense! Ha!
I didn’t know Impossible Burgers were previously unavailable at stores! I assumed I had just never seen them there. I still haven’t pulled the trigger and tried one, even though I’m insanely curious (on any of the Impossible-style burgers – I haven’t had a Beyond Burger either). One of these days!
We watch the Chicago shows (Fire, PD, Med – well, technically *I* only watch PD because fire and medical things make me anxious, so neither one of those shows is exactly up my alley, haha). They all got cut short because of COVID. I think they only missed a couple episodes, and they spun the last episode of all of them as the season finale, but it does make me wonder how the seasons were supposed to end.
I definitely get what you’re saying about being open about things and then not having them go as planned. I’m almost always hesitant to share any sort of news until things are 100% figured out because I don’t want to have to tell people that things didn’t work out…but it’s also nice to have people there to support you if they don’t. I guess it’s really about figuring out who you know will be able to support you in the ways you need it if things go south. It’s still really tough to have to share bad news with multiple people, though 🙁
They just became available to consumers directly during the pandemic, I think! And Steven is selling refrigerated products now which I am SO excited about, so he sells them both. Let me know what you think if you try them!
Oh weird! So were you watching that last episode like “huh? this didn’t tie anything up!” (or feel like an ending)?
It is tough but that is EXACTLY what I figured out, even more – who will support me in the ways I need. Most did, but several were pushing me to forget about it or find a bright side right away, and… that didn’t feel good. Like, “I can’t feel disappointed and upset?!”
I always struggle with deciding if I will share if I am training for a race and my goal time (back in the day when I did that). Last time I had a big goal race I fell in the first quarter mile and it kind of went to sh*t, ha.
So the thing with these Chicago shows is that, considering they’re dramas, they are fairly episodic. You could watch almost any episode of any of the shows and you might not quite get all the references, but the main action of each episode is almost always contained to one episode. The only time that typically changes is at the very end of the season: the last episode usually finishes in a cliffhanger that gets resolved in the first episode of the next season. But since they never even made it to what was supposed to be the last episodes of the seasons, that didn’t happen! I’m curious now to see how they’ll spin whatever happened in the last aired episode into a cliffhanger to pick up on whenever the shows start airing again!
I’ll never remember where I read this, because I think it was close to four years ago now probably, but at some point in the past I read an article with the best advice I’ve heard about how to react when others are disappointed: never say “at least.” It said (or I remember it saying – who knows what it literally said) that “at least” is the worst way to express sympathy or empathy, and even if you think it’ll help, it won’t, for exactly the reason you said–people should be allowed to feel disappointed and upset if that’s their reaction to a situation. “At least you have a job!” doesn’t help when you didn’t get the job you wanted, or it certainly doesn’t help in the moment. It was honestly life-changing advice, and I’ve tried to make a conscious effort to keep it out of my vocabulary since then (unless it’s a situation that makes sense, like, “I need to finish at least five chapters of this book every day to finish it before it’s due,” or whatever.). It’s tricky, because it’s such a knee-jerk reaction when someone shares bad news, but I do think it’s useful guidance!
Ahh, I see! Yeah, they will have to be creative to make a cliffhanger out of something that was never intended to be one!!!!
YES! That is amazing guidance! I wish everyone would take it! It really gets to the core of people not being empathetic and just listening – because it makes them uncomfortable. They want to find a solution or a bright side (an “at least”). There are many people I’ve stopped sharing with because they don’t allow me to just vent my frustration. Sometimes I even start with “I just want to vent” and still somehow get a solution or bright side. Sigh. And don’t even get me started on people sharing their similar tales of woe… Have you seen the Brene Brown video about this? (I actually don’t buy in to her but think the vid is good https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw)