Sometimes I have bad dreams right before I wake up. Yesterday morning, I was staying in Cleveland for business, and I had an awful dream that Steven and I were fighting about something. He wouldn’t even talk to me about it.
Then I woke up, alone, feeling guilty and sad. From a dream.
Does this happen to you as well?
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I spent a long day recently being very upset with my husband for something he did in my waking-up dream that morning. In my head, I knew it was stupid, but the sort of pit-of-the-stomach dread I felt took all day to subside. It wasn’t till I saw him after work — he leaves over an hour before me in the mornings — that I finally felt better.
All the time…
Well, not all the time, but I will frequently have a dream where Mike does something stupid and I’m mad at him when I wake up. Or I’ll have a sex dream about another man and wake up feeling really, really guilty. The feeling lasts a while after waking too…
It happens to me all the time. I sometimes wake up crying if I was crying in the dream. Sometimes my dreams stay with me the entire day and make me feel sort of uneasy all day.
My husband always cheats on me in my dreams and I admit it makes me a little cranky with him when I wake up. Luckily, by the time I wake up he is already gone for work so he doesn’t ever know I was annoyed with him for what he did in my dream. Those kind of dreams I get over pretty fast so by the time he comes home it is forgotten.
i’m so glad i’m not the only one who has this problem!!! why does it seem that a dream can really make or break my attitude that day (maybe not all day long but depending on the dream it can really mess with me)… it seems that when dc’s gone my dreams are not so good… i know, so sad…
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Yep, my mom and I both have those kinds of dreams, where we wake up feeling very emotional and sometimes angry. It’s hard to remind yourself that it’s “just a dream” when the feelings are so intense!
Yeah, I have those dreams too. It’s disheartening when you think badly of someone you love for no good reason.
BTW, I’m surprised no one mentioned “Cleveland” as the source of your bad dreams. 🙂
On more than one occasion, I have woke up screaming thinking someone is in the house. It is crazy when a dream can be that real!!!
I find my most disturbing dreams are the ones where I am furious. I have had dreams where I was so angry I wanted to physically hurt a member of my family – something in real life that I would NEVER EVER do. Which is why it is so terrifying to wake up with. Blah.
I have had hubby wake from a dream where I apparently had a torrid affair and he was pissed at me for the rest of the day, even though he knew it was irrational. Of course, i just got angry right back. Lots of fun. 😉
I don’t normally remember my dreams. But, sometimes, I start my day off like crap and then I realize it was related to a dream, not my awake life!
I will have very strange and upsetting dreams if I wake up a 1/2 an hour to an hour before the alarm and then go back to sleep. And I have had several dreams for years. Like opening my closet and having a closet full of cute, up to date clothes however, none of them fit. All of my teeth crumble and fall out. Someone is redoing the bridge that crosses the Cedar River in CF and my entire family drives/falls off of the end and I try to save them all from drowning (I have had this one for years, ever since they redid the bridge). Very strange. Dreams do tend to set the mood for the day, good or bad. Have also had the husband cheating dream, that one leaves me either crying or really pissed off. 🙂
Cat. – That is exactly how i feel sometimes. It comes directly from your stomach – fear, dread, anger… what a strange phenomenon this is!
suze – I have dreams that make me feel very guilty too. I don’t even know why I have them.
tori – The “being cheated on” dream is one of the worst. What always makes it so bad for me is that when I find out about it, and ask Steven why, he never answers. He just ignores me. Luckily, I leave right away on the weekdays, so I can take time to get over it 😉
CourtneyInControl – I never thought about that – maybe who you are around affects the dreams you have? I did have a bad dream about Steven when I was staying in a different state from him. Hmm. Guess we should just ALWAYS spend all of our time with our loved ones 😉
diane – Exactly! It feels so real. Sometimes you are confused as to whether or not it really happened.
ajooja – Ha ha. I did dread going to Cleveland. That may have caused some of it. 😉
Felicia – Now that is SCARY! Wow! How do you get over it?
Kyra – It’s hard to deal with your partner’s emotions when they have the bad dream. You can never truly understand it, even when they try to explain it.
Nilsa – I wish I could use that excuse every Monday, instead of wondering “Why am I in such a foul mood?” 😉
Denise – Isn’t it crazy that dreams repeat? I have a lot where I show up somewhere without shoes on. Not quite as scary as yours 😉
Wow – yeah, this does happen to me a lot. It’s hard to shake the feelings when you wake up because they were so real in the dream. As a matter of fact I have a cartoon set up that deals with this subject – I will probably post it sometime next week – you will know which one when you see it! 😉
I don’t dream like everybody else. I know I’m dreaming and am always detached so I can’t really enjoy it. Robbed!
teeni – Oh! I can’t wait to see it. You know I love your ‘toons!
Dave2 – Like, you’re in it, but you know it’s a dream?
I get the same feelings sometimes. Usually it’s because I had a dream about some event or some such that I knew Katie would enjoy until I realize that she wasn’t in the dream with me. How messed up is that?
My dreams are intensely vivid and real, so when something bad happens in them, it carries over into my waking. I HATE it when I dream that Bret is cheating on me and doesn’t even care that I’m hurt. It makes me feel heartbroken for hours afterward.
Bret once woke up sobbing because he’d dreamed that Data got outside and by the time he found her, she was literally half-frozen and couldn’t move. All day long, he had to have her on his lap, just to reassure himself that she was safe.
The power of dreams is amazing, isn’t it?
Happens to me and I HATE it because I will be moping around all morning and not sure why, then I remember the dream (it seemed real) and realize that part of me still thought it was true. It’s nice to see what SJ and you wrote because for me it always involves Scott mad at me and not caring at what I have to say or refusing to talk to me, which is devastating. Wonder what that is all about? Must be that they are the most important person to us in our life and if this dream was ever true, we’d just die. I know I would. Horror. I think this is more of a nightmare than a dream 🙁 *we love our guys!
I know exactly what you mean. I’ve had repeated dreams that Andrew is cheating on me and I wake up SO freaking pissed and just ready to kill him. It takes a few seconds for it to sink in that it’s not real. And then the whole rest of the morning (or sometimes the whole day) just feels off. I’ve had horrible dreams where something happens to Izzy and I wake up in a panic, looking for her laying next to my bed to make sure it’s not real. Then the entire rest of the day I’m paranoid something is going to happen to her or my house is going to burn down while I’m at work or something. I’ve also been known to yell, cry and occasionally kick people I’m sleeping with when I’m having a bad dream. It’s crazy! I’ve also had dreams that have come true, which is why the entire matter of dreaming and dreams is so freaky to me.
kapgar – Aww 🙂 You feel guilty for not including Katie. You’re such a sweetie 🙂
SJ – It’s truly is amazing. I can see myself doing the same with our Data. The feelings in the dream are so real, it’s like you’ll do anything to prevent feeling them in real life.
javaqueen – It is about the most important person (or people!) in our lives treating us with no love. How strange. Maybe that’s the worst nightmare of all?
Megan – What is with the dreams coming real thing? I feel like that has happened to me too! But how is that even possible?