Dropping balls
I have to share two experiences from Val’s visit that have been playing on repeat in my head since she left. The first is funny and the second is scary. Or should we reverse them? Let’s do scary then funny.
Story 1 (the scary one): After our flight Val and I went to pick up a pizza in Steven’s car. Steven took my car to get gas and wasn’t with us.
When we got to the pizza place Val opened her door and a man approached our car stepped in front of the open door. I said, “sorry, we’re not interested” before he even got started on his spiel. Dude, read the room.
But he kept going, saying something like “let me tell you what’s going on” then leaned in more over Val to tell us some story about how he missed his train stop south of where we were and wondered if we were going north or if we were going south could we drop him off.
Val told him no and he went away but loitered outside of the pizza station and it made her super uncomfortable.
It made me ragey that after I told him no, he kept going, then doubled down by leaning in more and making it so Val couldn’t close the door or get away from him. Steven’s car is pretty low to the ground, so this man was kind of towering over Val.
Was I being a bitch? Yes. I wish I would have been bitchier and told him to f*ck off. We were two women, in a not super awesome part of town, being accosted right after arriving somewhere and opening our door. NOT COOL.
Also, we were not going south, we were going north. Also, he had a phone in his hand. Order a freaking Uber, dude. GAH.
And maybe, just maybe, don’t rush up to someone and step into their space right after they open their car door to ask them for something. There was never a chance in hell he was getting in the car, but definitely not after that. UGH.
Story 2 (the funny one): While we were flying with Val around northern Chicagoland, we kept hearing someone on the radio telling air traffic control they were dropping balls. Since we are all children this made us very giggly. Then we researched it later and found out it’s a charity thing – people buy golf balls, then a helicopter drops them off at a golf course, and the one that gets a hole in one or close to it wins. Or something like that.
But, “dropping balls!” Snicker snicker.
Work hard/play medium
I just had my mind blown. I came over here to blog about the work hard/play hard concept and era of my life I am in… then realized I might not interpret that concept the same way as everyone else.
In my mind “work hard/play hard” meant you were working really hard when you were working, and playing really hard the rest of the time (maybe almost to excess). Which sounded exhausting to me. Like when do you rest?!
But then when I googled work hard/play hard the top result said “The phrase ‘work hard, play hard’ refers to the practice of having a good work-life balance and prioritizing both professional growth and personal enjoyment. People who embrace the work hard, play hard lifestyle give equal attention to reaching their career-related and personal goals.”
Huh. That description makes it sound less intense than it was in my mind. I mean, I have “doing less” as a personal goal. And I am all about work-life balance.
But then other searches supported my original interpretation of work hard/play hard, one even adding “rest harder” at the end.
ANYWAY. Let’s get out of that rabbit hole. This was meant to be a short post. Oops.
What I was going to say is I feel like I am in a work hard/play medium part of my life and I want to be in a work lite/play medium part of life… but I don’t see that changing for a while. At least until the holidays, for an interim break. Then back at it.
Work is making the days fly by. I have little actions each day that give me a sense of accomplishment and purpose, but it still freaks me out how fast the days are going. Like life is flying by and it’s just… work. It’s not even something I typically share with people outside of work. It’s a separate part of my personality that I mostly shut down when I’m off. AM I WASTING MY LIFE AWAY.
My days are feeling monotonous/routine, even though they technically aren’t, when you look at the fine details. Every day at work is completely different with new unforeseen problems. My days never go how I think they’re going to. It’s kind of nuts. The monotonous/routine part about it is that I wake up early each day to work out, work all day, then try to have free time and do it all again the next day.
So when I’m off from my full-time job I am OFF and don’t think about it at all and just focus on resting, having fun, and part-time work. Ya know, work hard/play hard.
What is this post even about. Thank you for witnessing my existential crisis and the beginning stages of burnout. Yes, I will book some therapy for this month.
Recent playing:
Reading Update (2024 #61-63)
[61] Reckless (Chestnut Springs #4) by Elsie Silver
Fiction / Romance / Contemporary, fourth in series, Kindle
Synopsis: Winter and Theo’s meet cute is NOT that cute. They’re both driving to the same destination in a snowstorm and Winter is freaked out and driving super slow and Theo is riding her ass. He gets out laughing about it and she immediately chews him out. He’s instantly attracted to how feisty she is. They spend a night together that changes their life forever… but don’t see each other again until a year and a half later.
Review: This book really took me through the ringer. I don’t want to spoil anything, but there is a huge miscommunication at the beginning that made me SO mad. And it gets talked about right away but it’s undoable and heartbreaking. All that being said, it was fun to see Winter (she is Summer’s sister from the first book) get a love story, and I loved her and Theo’s (he is the bull riding protege of Summer’s fiance from the first book) chemistry.
Recommend? Yes
[62] The Women by Kristin Hannah
Fiction / Women, heard about from everyone, read with Mom & Snis, audio
Synopsis: Frankie is a 20 year-old nurse and joins the army so she can go to Vietnam to be with her brother. He dies before she even gets there, but she still goes, and her life is forever changed by her service there, the relationships she makes, and her struggles when she returns home.
Review: It was such an emotional journey listening to this (I was so excited when I saw Julia Whelan was the narrator!), but I loved it. Hannah creates such an amazing sense of space/environment that you feel like you can almost understand the horror Frankie is seeing in Vietnam, and her struggles when she gets back. And you’re more connected to Frankie’s story because of that. I love historical fiction like this that tells a story in such a memorable way that I’m actually learning about new parts of history I didn’t know about – like the women who served in Vietnam. There were so many themes explored in this book, but I especially loved the focus on female friendship, and the lifelong friends Frankie made in the other nurses she served with. Their absolute love and devotion to one another was inspiring (and really, a lot of what got Frankie through all her hardships).
Recommend? Absolutely yes
[63] Hopeless (Chestnut Springs #5) by Elsie Silver
Fiction / Romance / Contemporary, fourth in series, Kindle
Synopsis: Beau is not himself after returning from being captured in Afghanistan, and starts spending a lot of time at the local watering hole, where Bailey, his much younger neighbor, works. Bailey’s family has a horrible reputation – her dad’s in jail, her brothers are drunk petty thieves, and her mom split a long time ago. Bailey is honest and works hard, but everyone in town just sees her as being as horrible as the rest of her family. She can’t get another job anywhere, so Beau offers to be fake engaged to her to help with her reputation, since his family is so beloved.
Review: I really enjoyed this book and the chemistry between these two. Honestly, it was probably my fave of the series! I wish the author would get to the “we actually like each other and this isn’t fake” part of the story a bit faster, but they gotta build suspense, right? I really enjoyed this series overall, and the little universe created and how it ties in with Wild Love and Wild Eyes.
Recommend? Yes, all 5 in the series!
Flying to Lake Lawn Airport
Today’s flying adventure was to Lake Lawn Airport in Delavan, Wisconsin (C59), with Bobbi!
We picked this airport because it’s close (34.9 nautical miles, 24 minute flight there and 27 on the way back) and it’s across the street from Lake Lawn Resort, which has a few restaurants we could go to for lunch. Originally we invited Bobbi and her husband, then realized the Cessna 172 that was available couldn’t carry all of us and fuel. The other plane we fly has a bigger engine and higher useful load but wasn’t available. All four of us will have to go together in the future in that plane, cause spoiler alert, we had a lot of fun!
After we figured that out earlier this week and knew it would just be the three of us, we turned to weather watch. It was HELLA windy here this weekend. Steven was going to fly Friday night to get his night currency for passengers and had to cancel because the wind was gusting so high. Besides throwing you around in the air, the high winds can create a crosswind on the runway that affect your stability and control and cause you to drift off course.
Fun, fun!
It was pretty windy at Waukegan (look at Bobbi’s hair blowing back!) but we obviously had two safe takeoffs and landings.
And actually, the wind had reduced a bit once we got inland/away from Lake Michigan (Steven still had to do a lot of corrections to land safely at Lake Lawn from crosswind, but it was a super smooth landing! I was impressed.).
We had a lovely time chatting at lunch then walked around a bit at the resort.
It was sunny and hot there, completely different weather than we were experiencing in Illinois before we left. That lake effect back home, I tell ya.
Gah, on the flight home I went to open Steven’s new water bottle, which has a straw in it, and the pressure change made it throw water all over me, the iPad, my headset, and the plane. Derp. We won’t be using that bottle in the plane again. (My headset controller is now currently sitting in a bag of rice. Sigh. It was fine on the flight but there was water in it when I got home. And I only know that because I went to change the batteries. I’m glad I saw it!)
But other than that, totally great flight! I love seeing the land around us from above, and really enjoyed pointing things out to Bobbi. We love having passengers and Bobbi said she really enjoyed it!
I’m so glad we got to go, and share it with Bobbi! I worked most of yesterday (Fake Meats work) and needed to do something fun today. Y’all have maybe picked up that my life is mostly work, flying, and the occasional visit with family and friends. I really look forward to these adventures! We’ll have to slowly wean me off of them in the fall so I don’t struggle in the winter if we can’t fly much because of weather. Kind of joking, but kind of not. I’ve been really looking forward to this for a long time and am so grateful I get to go with Steven!
Random Thoughts Thursday 466
- We had a video call with Dunja and fam on Sunday and talked a bit about their trip out here in August (they live in Germany). I’m so excited. I love having things to look forward to on the calendar.
- Steven’s official private pilot license/certificate came in the mail from the FAA this week! Woo hoo! (He had a paper one in his wallet until this one came.)
- My blog server issues seemed to have fixed themselves. I didn’t have any issues for a couple weeks… further convincing me it’s my host and not me. Then on Tuesday when I went to my blog it had an “install wordpress” screen. Sigh. When I contacted my host they asked me what I changed. Sigh. NOTHING. All that to say, thanks for your patience in reading and commenting!
- I don’t like a lot of my tops and decided to try Wantable. I filled out the entire survey, said yes and no to a bunch of items then clicked around on their site a bit after, looking at different premade “style edits.” Apparently me doing that signed me up for the “How to Blazer” style edit, so I received two blazers, a pair of pants, a pair of jeans, this sweater below, and two camis, even though I asked for tops so… I don’t know what I am doing, only liked the camis but not the price, and returned it all.
Don’t talk about it, get over it
My mom, snister, and I are all reading Kristin Hannah’s The Women right now. It’s about a young female nurse, Frankie, who goes to Vietnam in the late 60s as an army nurse, and her experience there and after returning home.
I haven’t finished it yet (I’m almost to 80%), but four thoughts to share:
- It’s funny, you think you’ve read some 5 star books recently, then you read a Kristin Hannah book and it blows everything out of the water. Maybe she’s just in a league of her own.
- I can see myself doing a Vietnam War deep dive after reading this. Something similar happened after we watched Chernobyl on HBO – I became very interested in the incident/how nuclear power works and read several books about it. (IT WILL FOREVER BLOW MY MIND THAT NUCLEAR POWER IS CREATED TO SPIN TURBINES. It all goes back to turbines.)
- (Slightly spoilery?) Could our girl Frankie just get a freaking break PLEASE? GAH I AM DYING OVER HERE. This book is heavy. (No spoilers for me in the comments please)
- And finally, the theme of the book, which seems to be “don’t talk about hardship, move on and get over it.” I knew that was the mindset of older generations, but listening to this book has made it so clear to me, and so clear how toxic that is. I can’t wait to talk to my mom and snister about it. You know, if we can get Mom to talk about it. Ha.
TIL
TIL = Today I Learned. And truthfully, it should be FIL because I learned these things Friday. Ha. But I have to share two things I learned for the first time Friday, that probably most people know.
First, cake balls are not just cake baked in a ball shape.
I had never had a cake ball before! My snister brought me four when I saw her last week, and I loved them, and loved that they were doughy but wasn’t sure if they were supposed to be.
But my snis confirmed they are – they’re crumbled cake mixed with frosting, (purposefully) giving it a dough like consistency. I had no idea (neither did Steven – he thought the same as me)! I’m a fan!
Second, aqua socks are different than aqua shoes.
I thought they were the same thing, and people used them interchangeably. But no, aqua socks don’t have as sturdy of a sole, and are more like, ding ding, you guessed it, socks.
I never thought about this. I’ve always had the shoe type. I bought some to take to Rachel’s with us (to wade through the water to get to her boat (we have aqua shoes but left them at the river)) and was surprised when I opened them and they were like socks. I really liked them though! They’re so much easier to get on and are perfect for when you don’t need a sturdy sole.
So, big learning going on over here. Yep! Ha ha.
Summer send-off
We had such a lovely day yesterday! We took the day off work, flew to Rachel and Kevin’s house in Edgerton, WI, hung out with them on their boat, ate lunch at a restaurant on the water, then flew home!
It was such a beautiful (hot!) day – temps in the high 80s, clear blue skies. Lovely for being on the water (hot in the plane when it’s not moving, ha). Thank you Rachel and Kevin, for your wonderful hospitality!
On the flight back, Rachel texted me this timehop photo and said “It’s our friendiversary!!!!!” Aww! I had no idea! We met 12 years ago running the 50K at the North Face Endurance Challenge. We were blogger friends but had never met in person. I’m so glad she came up to me that day. We instantly hit it off, and we’ve been good friends since then. She’s someone who always fills my cup and leaves me feeling energized!
I’m putting all the flight details under the “read more”! Because you know me, it’ll get long. But there was an exciting part on the way there so you may want to keep going.
read more…Reading Update (2024 #58-60)
[58] Colton Gentry’s Third Act by Jeff Zentner
Fiction / Southern, heard about from Knox at The Popcast, audio
Synopsis: Colton Gentry is a second-rate country music singer who drunkenly spoke out about gun control at a concert and got himself canceled. Now he’s out of rehab, freshly divorced, and back in his hometown, trying to get his life on the right track.
Review: This is such a wonderfully earnest redemption story. I really enjoyed it. It’s hard NOT to root for Colton because he accepts all his faults and is trying so hard to do what’s right. The story goes back and forth from present day to his time growing up in his hometown (in… I already forgot [insert small southern town here]), and some of the characters from his youth make a reappearance. I’m usually not a “second chance” romance fan, but so much of the backstory was built up that I really wanted them to reunite. This book takes addiction and the struggle with it very seriously, but will leave you feeling good. And bonus, how can you not love a book that has only two footnotes and they are to tell you that the super senior dog Colton adopts will NOT die in this book?
Recommend? Definitely yes
[59] Butcher & Blackbird by Brynne Weaver
Fiction / Romance / New Adult, Anita told me it was overrated and I should read it and tell her what I think, audio
Synopsis: Two serial killers fall in love over years of playing a “who can kill the bad guy” first game.
Review: I was worried this would be too graphic and torture-y, and thankfully it wasn’t. There were very clear trigger warnings (if you can call them that? more like warnings) in the beginning. This is basically a romance, but the two main characters are killers. You still have them being unsure if the other likes them, taking way too long to get together, a dark moment, etc. I think the sex was supposed to come off as extra kinky? I liked listening to it because the main male character is Irish and had a lovely accent, and the female did a great job too. However… it was a bit slow moving, and kind of boring at times. And there wasn’t enough background (for me anyway) that explained why these two kill bad people for fun on the side. I think that concept just generally doesn’t do it for me.
Recommend? Nah
[60] Powerless by Elsie Silver
Fiction / Romance / Contemporary, third in series, Kindle
Synopsis: Jasper and Sloane have been friends since childhood, with her always have a very obvious (seemingly unreciprocated) crush on him. Now, Sloane is about to marry someone else but leaves that dirtbag behind in the church after an anonymous video is texted to her. Jasper gets her out of there, and now they have a chance to be together… if they’ll take it.
Review: This was not my favorite from the series, but I still enjoyed it. I didn’t like these characters as much as those in the first two books, but there’s nothing wrong or unlikable about them, I just enjoyed the chemistry in the first two better. The “I haven’t liked you your whole life but now I do that you’re about to get married and aren’t anymore and are available” is a bit sus but it’s addressed by Sloane, who calls Jasper out on her bullshit. The sex seems were pretty steamy, so there’s that!
Recommend? Sure
Random Thoughts Thursday 465
- I feel like people drive so much crazier/riskier since the pandemic. We see something bizarre every time we drive (on Monday we saw a left on red). When Steven leaves to go to work, I always say “watch out for f*ckos!” All that to say, on Steven’s drive home yesterday, he saw a truck get t-boned and fly up in the air. The truck landed on its side, and the driver was trapped. The passenger door wouldn’t open, so Steven and three others bent it open wide enough for the driver to climb/crawl out. Both drivers were thankfully okay and the cops showed up right away to help. BE SAFE OUT THERE FOLKS! WATCH OUT FOR F*CKOS!
- We were discussing times for Steven to do a night currency flight* and were checking sunset times and were shocked by how much earlier there were going to be over the course of the next few weeks. Science and math, baby! Winter is coming. In three months. (*Steven can fly by himself at night, but to fly with a passenger (me!) at night he must have completed 3 takeoffs and landings at night in the last 90 days)
- Last year we had plans every weekend in October. It was fun but we were exhausted! It looked like this October was going to shape up the same way and then slowly almost everything was canceled or postponed (or declined) and it feels so good. I know you get me!
- This is one of those weeks where I had something going on every day after work. Props to those of you who that is your regular week because it exhausts me! I know I could get used to it… I just don’t want to. See above bullet about liking free time.
- Do you ever think “I wish I was less needed at work”? Sigh. I am glad I have such an amazing team who can handle things for me when I take time off.
- When Val was here she commented on how good I am at taking photos when we’re together (thank you!). The funny thing is, I’ve been trying to use my phone less, so I have to be way more purposeful about it now. I’m actually feeling like I need to take more random shots of my day to day life (like this Tuesday run photo below).
Long story short (maybe?), on Tuesday I texted Steven “Wow! Great memory!” and he said “Lol I’d better screenshot that part about my great memory” (since I am “typically telling him he can’t remember things” that I told him). Flash forward to Tuesday night when he asks if I saw what he added to our digital photo frame – that screenshot. “I was going to print it and frame it, but then I remembered I can add it to the digital frame.” Ha ha, right?
But wait! There’s more! I said “You know, my mom looks at every photo I add to our frame and is going to ask about it.” It’s an Aura frame and she can see on the app when I add photos. Sure enough, she asked about it Wednesday morning. Ha. It’s even funnier because it’s a memory of something that happened to me and my mother that I told Steven about. Which she and I don’t remember as vividly as Steven. Ha ha ha ha ha. I started a group chat so Steven could explain it to her.
Hi! I’m Kim, a 40-something-year-old living in northeastern Illinois with my husband Steven, and our cats, Khaleesi, Apollo, Starbuck, and Eddard aka Ned. My current main hobbies are running, painting rocks, flying, reading, and eating. I follow a vegan lifestyle and work in an account management role. I write about a variety of topics and consider this a “life” blog – a place I can share anything that’s on my mind. Please visit the “About” page to get a better idea of who I am! 🙂
