Book club was so much fun last Friday! I loved sharing what we didn’t like about the book but also finding something we learned from it. It felt good to focus on a positive and hear everyone’s perspectives. And the book exchange was a blast – look how cute the one I received was! The book I got was Part of Your World (which I have read and loved! The person who gave it to me felt bad I’d already read it and brought me another book later – The Locked Door – not necessary, but so thoughtful).
Every Wednesday night when Steven and I take the garbage and recycling out we race down our long driveway and end up out of breath (both of us) and in a fit of giggles (me). Last night we ran into each other and I bruised my elbow and leg. Oops! It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt (written as if I learned a lesson – no lessons were learned.)
I never thought I’d be talking about eggs here – I’m vegan! – but I do buy them for Steven (he’s vegetarian). I stopped by the farmstand for eggs last Sunday and they were out. Another person trying to buy eggs said to me “it really says something that the egg shortage is so bad you have to go to a local farm!” and I was like “we always buy our eggs here.” Oops. I didn’t mean to be bitchy, I was just saying what was true and popped into my head. But I felt bad for a minute about my response. She was like “nice to meet you, have a nice day!” then we both got in our cars and left. Oops.
Mom & me at the farmstand in November
More egg talk – so I ordered the “pasture raised” ones from Walmart for pickup and when I got home and put the groceries away I saw there was only 11 in the carton!
Something I’ve been saying a lot lately, after people laugh at a joke I made, is “thank you for laughing.” Daily it’s like, if I am not laughing, I am crying, so making other people laugh feels really good.
Recently someone asked me if I was going to train to be a pilot. I said “I’d like to someday! It’s not in the cards now ☺️,” and they responded with “You can shake those cards!😘😅.” Sigh. I know they were trying to be encouraging and kind. And they mean well. But they know nothing about my personal situation and I am just like ACTUALLY I CANNOT SO LET’S QUIT THE BSING. (I didn’t respond.) Ha, this same person has also encouraged me over and over to do my “hide a painted rock a day” challenge that I did in 2023 again, and I have told them MANY times that will NOT be happening and they just keep saying it so… maybe this person is not hearing me anyway?!
I think I have written and deleted more responses in the past month than I have in years. I am heavily filtering myself. (Except in person with the egg lady, obviously.)
The “shake the cards” comment made me think a lot about how I’ve made my life too open. I share too much publicly (said, ironically, on my public blog). I have a lot of connections (which I am grateful for!), and people feel comfortable commenting on my life, CAUSE I PUT IT OUT THERE. Will any lessons be learned? There is more hope here than with the garbage/recycling bin races.
Oof I can relate to the “shake the cards” thing. My special peeve is that there are things that I have stopped doing because I don’t get value out of them anymore, such as running and sometimes people are like “oh you could do that again!” Yes I *could* run a half marathon, but I don’t enjoy running so why would I spend hours doing something that I hate? If it’s all the same to everyone else I’m living my life and doing things that I enjoy doing right now.
kimhastheruns
on February 28, 2025 at 9:17 am
Yep, you get it. And it’s fine when people come at it from a place of curiosity, but it sounds like you also have the people who are kind of telling you what to do and that is just super freaking annoying.
I don’t think your comment at the farmstand was bitchy! Just honest. 🙂 But I am someone who ALWAYS second-guesses what I say to other people, so I understand that feeling. I always think I could have said something in a nicer way, sigh.
I don’t love when people try to make decision for my life either, which is basically what these people are doing! Just because you like flying with Steven doesn’t mean you want to go through the rigamarole of becoming a pilot yourself! And it’s not as easy as “shaking the cards.” Bah.
kimhastheruns
on March 5, 2025 at 11:44 am
You get me! This morning I was talking to Steven about it and was like, well, at least I didn’t mention I don’t even eat eggs LOL!
Right. The thing is, I DO want to, but like… when I tell you it’s not in the cards, it’s NOT. Drop it. I don’t get why people want to tell other people what to do. It’s so weird to me.
I’m still lost on what “shake the cards” means… turn your life upside down to pursue something that you already know isn’t possible right now? Why do people feel compelled to try to get OTHER people to do things? I mean… ??? It’s like people who comment on other peoples’ bodies – do NOT get me started on that. Keep it to yourself, people! (If I’m completely misinterpreting, please educate me!)
kimhastheruns
on March 9, 2025 at 9:32 am
No, you aren’t misinterpreting! And I appreciate your passion! It’s like, I wasn’t bsing around by saying it’s NOT in the cards. It’s just NOT. I am not sure how much longer I will have a job, then I will be searching for a new one, so THAT is my focus right now, not spending $15-20K getting my pilots license. Sigh. Of course, I didn’t tell them that LOL.
Hi! I’m Kim, a 40-something-year-old living in northeastern Illinois with my husband Steven, and our cats, Khaleesi, Apollo, Starbuck, and Eddard aka Ned. My current main hobbies are running, painting rocks, flying, reading, and eating. I follow a vegan lifestyle and work in an account management role. I write about a variety of topics and consider this a “life” blog – a place I can share anything that’s on my mind. Please visit the “About” page to get a better idea of who I am! 🙂
The only thing that could have made your egg lady comment better would have been if you hissed at her after.
OMG I legit LOL’d snis. I will def do that next time!!!
Oof I can relate to the “shake the cards” thing. My special peeve is that there are things that I have stopped doing because I don’t get value out of them anymore, such as running and sometimes people are like “oh you could do that again!” Yes I *could* run a half marathon, but I don’t enjoy running so why would I spend hours doing something that I hate? If it’s all the same to everyone else I’m living my life and doing things that I enjoy doing right now.
Yep, you get it. And it’s fine when people come at it from a place of curiosity, but it sounds like you also have the people who are kind of telling you what to do and that is just super freaking annoying.
I don’t think your comment at the farmstand was bitchy! Just honest. 🙂 But I am someone who ALWAYS second-guesses what I say to other people, so I understand that feeling. I always think I could have said something in a nicer way, sigh.
I don’t love when people try to make decision for my life either, which is basically what these people are doing! Just because you like flying with Steven doesn’t mean you want to go through the rigamarole of becoming a pilot yourself! And it’s not as easy as “shaking the cards.” Bah.
You get me! This morning I was talking to Steven about it and was like, well, at least I didn’t mention I don’t even eat eggs LOL!
Right. The thing is, I DO want to, but like… when I tell you it’s not in the cards, it’s NOT. Drop it. I don’t get why people want to tell other people what to do. It’s so weird to me.
I’m still lost on what “shake the cards” means… turn your life upside down to pursue something that you already know isn’t possible right now? Why do people feel compelled to try to get OTHER people to do things? I mean… ??? It’s like people who comment on other peoples’ bodies – do NOT get me started on that. Keep it to yourself, people! (If I’m completely misinterpreting, please educate me!)
No, you aren’t misinterpreting! And I appreciate your passion! It’s like, I wasn’t bsing around by saying it’s NOT in the cards. It’s just NOT. I am not sure how much longer I will have a job, then I will be searching for a new one, so THAT is my focus right now, not spending $15-20K getting my pilots license. Sigh. Of course, I didn’t tell them that LOL.