RAGBRAI, the week-long bike ride across Iowa held every July, is revealing this year’s route on Saturday night. I’m excited to see where it’s headed and start planning my summer – will or won’t I be training for a day of the ride?!
I went for summer vibes with my last mani! I maybe regret it a bit, lol. Too soon. Although I have received a few compliments!
The more life I live, the more I realize I’m someone who needs to take time and process before I can share/talk about things that upset me. If at all. I need to come up with a better way to say “thanks for asking, but I don’t want to talk about that.” Because it’s all about me protecting my space, and nothing to do with the asker. But I feel bitchy saying that.
Has anyone been getting way more spam email and phone calls this week than usual?
Same with needing time to process things before sharing them. I think it’s totally fine to say that you don’t want to talk about something. I just can’t see how it’s bitchy.
kimhastheruns
on January 24, 2025 at 11:42 am
Thanks for saying that and getting me! I did tell two people yesterday in a work meeting that their comments weren’t helpful. That may have been on the bitchy side.
I am definitely someone who needs time to process! This is very true when it comes to work meetings and if we’re going through changes to something. Everyone else is throwing out questions left and right and my brain is so overwhelmed. I need time to sit with the new information and think about what questions I have. I feel like this makes me look useless in meetings, sigh.
I also don’t really like talking about things happening in my personal life until I’ve had time to process them myself – I need time to think about how I want to talk about xyz thing!
kimhastheruns
on January 27, 2025 at 2:55 pm
Oh Stephany! Your feelings are valid and I can see having that worry when everyone else is so vocal but I hope the folks you are around understand how different everyone is (and honestly, appreciate that you’re not one more person with questions they can’t answer yet!). That was really such a good example of when I would need time to process too.
Yes! Or if you even want to talk about it at all.
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Same with needing time to process things before sharing them. I think it’s totally fine to say that you don’t want to talk about something. I just can’t see how it’s bitchy.
Thanks for saying that and getting me! I did tell two people yesterday in a work meeting that their comments weren’t helpful. That may have been on the bitchy side.
But also, their comments weren’t helpful so…
I am definitely someone who needs time to process! This is very true when it comes to work meetings and if we’re going through changes to something. Everyone else is throwing out questions left and right and my brain is so overwhelmed. I need time to sit with the new information and think about what questions I have. I feel like this makes me look useless in meetings, sigh.
I also don’t really like talking about things happening in my personal life until I’ve had time to process them myself – I need time to think about how I want to talk about xyz thing!
Oh Stephany! Your feelings are valid and I can see having that worry when everyone else is so vocal but I hope the folks you are around understand how different everyone is (and honestly, appreciate that you’re not one more person with questions they can’t answer yet!). That was really such a good example of when I would need time to process too.
Yes! Or if you even want to talk about it at all.